Every man can claim a blueprint for success at work. But can he be so sure in bed? Relationships are work, that's why you need the ultimate every-night guide to getting what you want. Read it and reap the rewards, starting tonight!
1. Buy her a silk thong
A gift of lingerie is cliched, right? So twist it. Give it to her when you (seemingly) don't expect to have sex. Pass it under the table at a restaurant and ask her to go to the ladies room and change into it. Not recommended for a first date. "Any surprise or unusual thing can surely add spice to your sex life," says Mumbai-based sexologist, Dr Prakash Kothari
2. Embrace her until she ends it
Good kissing tops most womens' list of turn-ons, but don't underestimate the heating power of a great hug, especially when she initiates it. Let her know how much you savour it and make it clear you don't want the hug to end.
3. Go deeper
If your good lady's going down, stand while she kneels or sits on the bed. This angle lets her take more of you, gives her better control and is less tiring (all that head-bobbing can take a toll), and that means she can keep going for longer. If, however, it's your tongue's tour of duty, try this: Have the lucky lady lie with her legs bent and relaxed to form a 'diamond' shape; kneel down on her right side and go down on her with the top of your head towards her feet. Then, slip your right hand under her bum to stimulate her perineum (the sensitive area between her vagina and anus) with your thumb. Believe us, it won't be long before it's your turn to be on the receiving end again.
4. Whisper into her ear
In public or at a party, tell her what you want to do to her later: "Tonight, I'm going to make you have as many orgasms as possible." Anticipating it can be as exciting as the actual event.
5. Skip the flowers
Blooms at the office are overdone. If you want to stand out, send a card instead. "It's really the thoughtful things you do at non-sexual times that make a woman want you," says Mumbai-based sexologist Dr Deepak Jumani. Write out a few things you've never thanked her for-making breakfast on a Sunday or cleaning your stubble out of the sink. An appreciated woman during the day is an appreciative woman at night.
6. Try the no-move move
When you start foreplay, tell her you're not going to move on to another action until she tells you what to do next. This works physically and mentally: It's a way to encourage her to open up and direct you to what she really wants. Now, your turn.
7. Blindfold yourself
Many women who are insecure about their bodies stick to the missionary position because you can't see their bodies that way. If you really can't see her because your eyes are covered, she'll do a lot more with you, to you, and for you.
8.Hot chocolate and berries
Forget coffee and toast-bring hot chocolate (a sexual stimulant for her) and raspberries and strawberries to bed. The berries replenish the zinc you lose when you ejaculate-five milligrams, or a third of your daily requirement.
9. Say why
Anyone can say, "I love you," so explain why. Maybe it's the way she nibbles at a Kit Kat, or how her nose scrunches when she drinks tequila. The more unique your reasons, the more special she'll feel
10. Make yourself sick
Leave love notes around the house-in the fridge, on the bathroom mirror, under her pillow. It'll make her feel like a lovesick teenager.
11. Plant a picture
Stash a photo of her in your wallet; she'll deny it, but all women rummage at some point. You might as well turn it to your advantage.
12. Live dangerously
For the seriously pleasureheightening thrill of public sex, without the risk of untimely legal entanglements, do it standing up with her against the bedroom window. If she's semi-clothed your neighbours won't know what you're really up to, and you can keep a tally on all those twitching curtains.
13. Kiss and lick her hinges
You've got the obvious kiss spots covered. Now concentrate your efforts elsewhere-on her elbows, knees, shoulders, ankles, neck, and hip joints. "They're rarely attended to with long caresses," says Dr Jumani. It's a super sensation.See if you can make her come unhinged.
14. Bear fruit
Chocolate syrup and whipped cream get all the kinky play in movies. Instead, turn her body into a juicer ."The best foods for sex are fruits that you can rub onto the body, such as soft mango or papaya," says Dr Kothari. "Then devour both her and the fruit." Get sticky, shower, repeat
15. Give her a massage
But make it interesting:
In hot weather, roll a chilled can of soda along the back of her thighs.
In cool weather, warm a towel in the microwave for 10 seconds and massage her with it.
Season her belly with a little salt, and then slowly lick it off. Add tequila to taste.
Turn winter gloves inside out, put them on, and massage her with the soft side.
16. Give her the chills
"Cold is sensed by more nerve endings than mere touch can reach, so you're expanding her range of response," says Dr Jumani. Do this: Chill a bunch of grapes for at least 20 minutes. Then, trail a small sprig of them along her neck, nipples, and inner thighs. Nibble away. Now put a grape in your mouth and gently press it against her clitoris by holding it in your teeth or between your lips.
17. Come clean
Here's a masterclass in the notoriously tricky art of bath sex. Start by slinging in a generous quantity of bath gel, advises Anne Hooper, a sex therapist and author of Ultimate Sex Guide. Fill the tub with five inches of hot water, then pour more foaming bath gel onto your bellies, chests, and legs. Have her lie on top of you and use her body as a scrub brush. To add to the fun, throw in a set of Rub-a-Dub Dice-floating foam cubes that, when "rolled" reveal sexy commands like "sponge belly" or "kiss back" or use a vibrating bath massager you'll both enjoy.
18. Rub her down
For extra shower power, pour a couple of drops of shower gel into a spray bottle and mix it with water. Spray her, then rub. She'll feel three different types of stimulation-the steady pelting of the shower, the soft spray of the soapy gel, and the firm caresses of your hands. That's the kind of threesome that turns her on.
19. Make a bedroom burrito
Bondage is appealing for a good reason: It heightens the anticipation for the one who's receiving the pleasure. But anything with locks, Velcro, or ties can freak her out (us, too), so try this: While you're rolling around in bed, wrap her up in the sheet so she can't do anything with her arms (think burrito or straitjacket). Leave her head, shoulders, and lower legs uncovered. Now kiss every inch of exposed skin. It's simple, spontaneous, and soft-core.
20. Ask permission
Before you enter her, ask if it's okay. "Some women find it incredibly endearing," says Dr Jumani. "It gives them a sense of respect. It gives them the security to become more sexually relaxed." And when you're first entering her, kiss her lips or caress her face. Give her stimulation in addition to penetration.
21. Practise reentry
After you first enter her, do it again, slowly. Repeat it over and over. "One of the huge turn-ons is anticipation," Dr Jumani says. "Don't pull out all the way, but when you almost pull all the way out, she gets the anticipation of the stroke coming back in."
22. Apply her lipstick
"Grooming a woman is a form of role reversal," says Dr Kothari. "She's being doted on and served, and it shows that you think a certain part of her body is attractive." Other ideas: Shave her legs, paint her toenails, or brush or wash her hair. According to a Men's Health poll of 3,200 men, 76 per cent said they have shampooed their woman's hair.
23. Break a sweat
Use working out as fatburning foreplay. It will raise her dopamine levels, easing her anxieties. Bonus: Your post-run sweat has androstadienone, a testosterone derivative that spikes her arousal when she smells it.
24. Go mile-high without leaving the ground
Use a swivel chair as a sexy flight simulator. "Spinning sends fluid rushing around the balance mechanism in your inner ear," says Dr Jumani, and this disorientation makes you feel as though you're floating. With her straddling you, use your feet to slowly spin, speeding up as you get closer to climax. Get ready to land on Cloud 9.
25. Use the cottons cycle
The washing machine is the biggest vibrator in the house. Sit on it and have her sit on top of you-the vibrations will carry through your penis. Cottons get the longest, fastest spin.
26. Go into the closet
Any unusual setting, with strange sensations, smells, and muffled sounds, will make sex feel new and act as an aphrodisiac. Confined spaces add urgency. "Novelty certainly helps to break bedroom monotony," says Dr Kothari. Watch that shoe rack!
27. Or call a squeeze play
With her face down and you on top, have her cross her legs, and position yours outside of hers. Her vagina will feel tighter, and the added friction means more pleasure
28. Blow bubbles
Take a swig of champagne before going down, then use your tongue to swirl the bubbles around her clitoris. Nerve endings react to bubbles, in a very good way.
29. Get bigger
When you're on top, place her legs over your shoulders. This shortens her vaginal canal, so your penis feels bigger inside her.
30. Read her bedtime stories
Pick your favourite bits from this article and ask her what she thinks. It's a subtle, but effective, way to kick-start frank discussions about your (and her) fantasies.
31. Rest your wrist
The key to repeat bedroom performances is reducing your refractory period (the time it takes before you can get it up again), and the more often you ejaculate, the longer your refractory periods.
32. Work the angle
Placing cushions under her back can create an "orgasm-optimum" 26-degree pelvic tilt, which means maximum contact between your body and her clitoris, and minimum demands for foreplay.
33. Direct a fan at her
Then pour peppermint schnapps into her belly button, dip your fingers and tongue, and trace her body.
34. It's good to talk
Especially when youre "down there". The vibrations from your voice and the unpredictability will make her come even faster.
35. Stand by your woman
For better from-behind sex, have her kneel on the edge of the bed with her upper chest touching the mattress. This elongates the vaginal barrel, making it feel tighter. You get a fantastic view, and she'll enjoy the nipple stimulation from rubbing the mattress.
36. Make it easy
For oral sex, stand while your partner kneels or sits on the bed. This angle lets her take more of you, gives her better control, and is less tiring.
37. Let her give you a pearl necklace
But not a real one! Lightly lubricate the pearls and your penis. Have your partner wrap the pearls around the shaft and slowly stroke up and down with a gentle rotation. The beads feel warm and smooth, creating a new level of sensation.
38. Make it plain
Studies at the New York State Psychiatric Institute showed that consuming phenylethylamine (PEA), a substance found in the cocoa solids in chocolate, releases the same feel good chemicals as having sex.
39. Cheese is the new chocolate
Licking gooey cheese off her lady-parts may sound only slightly sexier than filing your tax return, but cheese contains 10 times more PEA than chocolate, and is considered an aphrodisiac.